Over tea yesterday, a friend asked me: do you ever think about arcs in art?

I said yes. I think in bell curves—slow rise, climax, slow descent.

It got me wondering: what if relationships are meant to follow that arc too?

Visualize a bell curve. At the start, there’s a gradual rise to the peak, then a slow descent.

I’m drawn to bell curves. They move at a steady pace, with a generous plateau at the top.

Sudden ascents and sharp drops signal volatility—and I get wary when I see that in relationships. Ever been love-bombed by a friend or a romantic partner? You hardly know each other and suddenly you're deep in love. Intimacy develops instantly. You're best friends. You spend every moment together.

Pause. Don’t rush the rise—ride the curve upward, slowly.

Trust is built along the slow rise. Like markets, relationships are emotional economies. And when something skyrockets too fast, it’s often headed for a correction. We may be bullish about a new relationship, but without time, we can't see how it will actually play out. A meteoric rise rarely keeps us at the top, and a speedy ascent is often followed by a spiral.

Pacing is everything.

Excitement is natural—but it lasts longer when we channel it instead of letting it flood us.

Follow the bell curve — let connection build slowly, trust rise naturally, and love settle in with time.